Is He Dating You, Courting You or WTF?
Posted: Sunday, March 08, 2009
by Cherry Norris
The Dating Director
After three great dates and lots of passion, Linda was sure she'd met the one. He was perfect! Attractive, attentive and all-into-her!
Weeks later when she stopped hearing from him, she didn't know WTF had gone wrong.
Linda thought she was being courted by this man. Instead he was dating her.
Which raises the question...
And what's the BIG difference anyway?
Dating is for the short-term. He's here. He's hot. He's gone. Flash and crash. Fun for the moment, then poof...it's over.
Courting is for the long-term. It's slow. It builds. It buds. It's romantic...and long lasting.
A man knows in advance if he wants to date you or court you.
He knows in advance if he wants to play with you for the short-term or if he's in for the long haul.
It's in your best interest to know sooner, rather than later if he's into you for the long run.
So how do you know? How can you tell?
Well, if he hasn't said something like, "I'm at a point in my life where I'm ready to settle down..."
Then ask him. Ask him BEFORE you have sex.
This is how you will know the difference.
Ask him before having sex what his plan is. Is he in it with you for the long-term? Is he seeing other women socially and sexually? Is he willing to see you consistently?
If he is in it for the long-term , he's willing not to see other women and he wants to see you on a regular basis, you can bet he's into you. He's courting. He's there with you for the ride.
If he's not into you, he won't do these things. He'll say something like, "Hey, I really like you, but I just wanna have fun. I'm not into a relationship right now."
So the next time you meet a guy you like, you'll know if he's dating you or courting you. And then you can decide how (and if) you want to play along.
Have fun! :)
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Cherry Norris is a renowned celebrity dating coach, workshop director and popular speaker. Based in Los Angeles, California, Cherry is an official dating coach for Cupid's Coach matchmaking service and the relationship expert on Catherine Oxenberg's TV pilot, Practical Princess. She has lead workshops around the US and on cruises to Mexico and Alaska. She has been featured in The LA Times, The Hollywood Reporter, Divine Caroline, and Women's World. Cherry's passion is helping people build healthy, intimate romantic relationships. Under her direction, you will learn the skills and techniques for dating that will have you starring in the role of a lifetime opposite the co-star you've been waiting for!
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